by: Elke Babicki, Registered Clinical Counsellor and Author
Living a life you really want requires a commitment from you to let go of negative and limiting beliefs. Let this be your intention for a mental break through. The good news is, we all have these negative, sabotaging feelings and limiting beliefs. The bad news is that they actually deliver what they promise.
In order to be the most amazing you, you must face that your progress in life comes from you and nobody else. Looking outside of yourself for care, worth and validation puts you into the world of illusion. If you believe the world should be lovingly coddling you and you continually getting your wishes fulfilled, it also means that if you don’t get this expectation filled, you are unlovable. The world should be loving for all those lovable right? Not.
As soon as you look outside yourself to provide for your happiness you are bound to be disappointed. Your happiness always comes from within, your soul and innermost being. This is the case even as a child. Even as children, our purest happiness is derived from learning to become independent, mastering eating with a spoon, venturing forth on your own when learning to walk, etc. Even though we believe our joy comes from approval, our real joy comes from, self-accomplishment. We are born to strive for more self-mastery!
In my practice, I hear many stories of complaint about our world, usually starting with parents. “Mom was not around or Dad was critical,” and therefore we search the world to find the acceptance we didn’t receive as children. We feel entitled to this kind of support, and TV and the media love to create a sense of entitlement from the world. It’s big business to support this kind of ego- based illusion.
The problem with this illusion is that people don’t have a surplus of love to give and all look for the same thing. We haven’t caught on that people do human things and often disappoint. The expectation to find love-ability validated from outside is at the root of this. Instead, we must realize that our love-ability and worth comes from nobody other than ourselves.
All this drama can be avoided once we accept the truth of our deepest nature. The truth is we are love. We don’t need to go looking for it, we have it within us at all times. We can view the world from this knowledge and receive totally different messages as a result. The universe is participatory. If we choose to be angry and vengeful, then we’ll feel the effects of that. If we are joyful, helpful and patient, we’ll feel the effects of that.
Start today and practice self-acceptance and forgiveness. They are not passive, but very active acts of great courage and take some self-discipline. Everything you do to build a strong body and mind is built on the foundation of your freedom of choice to switch on love, acceptance and peace within yourself. Every situation in life you find yourself in is the perfect opportunity to choose either fear or love.
